How hot can you handle it?

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I originally shared a variation of this on social media but I’m going to expand upon it here, why, cause you’re my favorite in the whole wide world 😉 

​​Mindset may not rid you of the challenges of ADHD, but it has everything to do with for long long you keep going. 

How many things in life have you had to push through? I mean really work hard and sometimes end up with a result you don’t like. 

How’d you respond, “I’m never doing that again” or “That was a waste of time.”

Not really the cry of a resilient ADHD Warrior (someone with ADHD who keeps challenging themselves regardless of their difficulties).​​​​

It’s the cry of someone who values winning above learning.

Responding with, “Well that was an education” turns an undesirable outcome into part of the process of becoming better. It isn’t the end.

Case in point,​​​​​​ ​​yesterday
 was the hottest day I can remember since the MS was diagnosed in 2017.
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My wife said it reached 100°F

​I spent most of the day in bed, trying to stay cool. Yes the A/C was on. 

​It became increasingly hard to move as my joints and muscles tightened. I’m guessing as the temperature increased. 

​Yes I drank plenty of water which had nothing to do with the symptoms anyway. 

​The pain in my legs was like fire and for a time I could neither feel or move my left arm. 

​I’m proud of myself for the self talk I managed during all this. 

​Once the sun set I began feeling better. As difficult as it was I kept coming back to the process, “Just another minute, just get through it, one breath at a time. It was like mindfulness on steroids.”

I wasn’t trying to win anything or beat anyone. I simply focused on enduring the overwhelm of the experience until I came out the other side. I couldn’t do much more to change the situation but I could choose my mindset throughout the storm.​​ 

​​Attitude is the secret weapon in managing ADHD as it determines your approach to seeking and using strategies that can help you live more fully. 

Your greatest tool is between your years but so few take the time to learn how to use it.

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