What rejuvenates you?

It’s easier than ever to get so caught up in doing things that you end the day exhausted. Not the smile on your face, job well done exhausted. I’m talking about the fully spent, feeling empty exhausted.

That may not be you, though I imagine you know people like this. In which case, please forward this message to them.

I was working with a new client via text recently. It became clear early in our exchange that they were a very generous individual, someone who cared deeply about the well-being of those around them. But it was often at the expense of refilling their own bucket so to speak.

This is an all too common experience for those who feel they are born to serve.

When you care so much about serving others it can be easy to forget to strike a balance between feeding yourself and making sure others are fed as well.

The operative word in my conversation with this person was “rejuvenation.”

Use this word to identify activities and experiences that serve the purpose of giving to yourself. Doing something that’s just for you that fills you up in a unique way so you no longer feel exhausted but feel alive.

For this person, it was creating something by hand. For others it may be a walk in the woods, exercise, reading a good book, you name it.

The key is not only to identify it but making time for it, without any guilt whatsoever. By prioritizing time to rejuvenate your spirit and your energy you increase your ability to be of service at the level you want.

What rejuvenates you?​​

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