Just like that things can change

“Actually I just woke up one day and decided I didn’t want to feel like that anymore or ever again so I changed. Just like that!”
– Unknown


Is it really that simple? Can you decide to change the direction of your life so quickly and completely?

Take a moment to think about this. Have you decided to start a new job, end a relationship, begin a new habit? A decision that came from the spirit of no turning back.  

To make decisions of such dramatic change takes courage, commitment, and faith in yourself. 

It’s the latter that most often holds you back in making decisions that can radically improve your life. 

I remember a young man I worked with several years ago who found himself friendless a few years into high school. He was so paralyzed by shyness he wouldn’t even respond to a simple,”Hi” from peers who eventually gave up.

One day he decided he was tired of feeling lonely and no longer wanted to hide. He wanted to learn how to make friends. 

We began working together and but the end of the school year he had friends, was involved in after school activities and had a date to the prom. 

He not only believed the outcome he sought was possible, he believed with the right guidance it was possible for him. 

When I found myself in remission from cancer at a young age, I declared I never wanted to feel that helpless again. So I’ve devoted myself to a solution-focused life.  

A single decision made in the presence of a situation deemed completely unacceptable. Do you find yourself in a situation, right now, that MUST change? 

Do you have the courage to decide to change your life so completely?
Do you believe in your ability to create the change you want?
Do you have the courage to ask for the help you need to go the distance?

If not, why not?

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