You can always begin again

“No matter how difficult the past, you can always begin again.”
– Jack Kornfield

The world is filled with self-starters who declare the merits of beginning each day with a positive attitude. Honestly, I declare the same.

The disservice we do others is when we forget to mention we were not always able to do this. That it’s a journey and a lot of work to arrive at this place.

 Many people have sought my services over the years to learn from me, among other things, how to reach the place where they can begin their days powerfully and positively.

One such person, a client of mine, reached out to me this morning after a less than positive exchange with a family member cause them to backslide in their mood and attitude about the day.

It’s easy to get stuck in moments like this, to get caught in a self talk loop that sounds like, “just what I needed today,” “this is not how I wanted to start my day, now I feel like crap.” Sound familiar. 

The simple solution here, though not an easy one at first, is to start over. When you decide as a principal for your life that you’re going to begin each day on a positive note, with a focus on opportunities and gratitude, that doesn’t mean you will never be distracted from it or knocked off balance in some way.

One important reason for solid principles is to create a psychological home base for yourself to return to when you lose your way, even for a moment.

 It is this homebase I reminded my client of and through a series of heartfelt text exchanges I guided them back to it so that in spite of a difficult beginning to the day they were able to begin again and see the path to the positive experiences the day still has in store.

I offer this to you, the opportunity to begin again no matter how difficult your day may have started. I hope you accept the offer.

That’s all for now.

 

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