How can I be of help to you?
Do you have something to teach me?
There are other criteria of course, but I want to discuss these for a moment.
Those are the top two questions I ask myself when deciding whether to connect to someone whether it be online or offline.
I receive many friend request I’m Facebook and after accept I asked the person, “What brings you by?” I want to know what motivated him to connect with me.
A response I received this morning was, “I’m adding friends of friends.” That’s one of the worst dancers ever received. It states I’m simply adding people my friends know to increase the size of my friends list. Suffice it to say this is a person I will be unfriending.
Life is short folks and we really need to focus our efforts on how we can grow and how we can support others in their growth. I don’t indulge in a lot of television, video games or other distractions. I’m really focused on bettering myself so I can be of more help to others. I’m not knocking leisure it’s just not a priority of mine. I do take days off from time to time.
When it comes to relationships I’m not looking for people to hang out with while we watched time pass. It’s important to surround yourself with people that challenge you. Who value your strengths and call you on your bullshit.
Who is in your life right now? When’s the last time you helped him or her with something? Whether it be providing a friendly ear, or offering some sagely advice that no one can supply as beautifully as you do?
Who are the people in your life that you can count on to bring you tremendous value right when you needed? Those are the people you want to make sure you serve often and serve well. When you do, your life will be more rich than you can possibly imagine.
Remember, relationships are about more than what I’ve touched on here. I just wanted to convey the importance of service to one another.